Heal the unhealthy patterns of an anxious attachment style by rebuilding your most essential relationship - with yourself - in this guide from the host of the world's leading attachment-theory podcast.
Relationship anxiety lives in the waiting, the monitoring, the second-guessing and the exhaustion of longing to feel safe with another person. For those with anxious attachment, connection is something that must be earned through reassurance, proximity or effort.
In The Secure Self, Stephanie Rigg, a relationship coach and host of the world's leading attachment podcast, On Attachment, offers readers a different path: one that leads not toward fixing their relationships, but toward first building something foundational - a secure relationship with themselves. Drawing on years of guiding thousands of clients as well as her own lived experience, she reframes this attachment style not as a flaw, but as a pattern rooted in a human need for connection.
Readers are guided to:
- Understand how anxious attachment fuels overthinking, hypervigilance, people-pleasing and emotional reactivity
- Build safety through self-compassion, nervous system regulation, healthy boundaries and self-trust
- Navigate dating, relationships and breakups with confidence, clarity and self-respect
