Tonya Lester has a bold piece of advice for every conflict-averse person in the world: It's OK to be difficult. Not mean, not rigid, not a bully - but the kind of difficult that makes the people in your life see you and understand what you need.
In Push Back Lester explains how to rock the boat, or "be difficult", in a good way - to do it clearly and productively. All too often, Lester has seen her clients talk themselves out of being angry when anger was justified; tell half-lies or back off to avoid difficult conversations. And they do so because most relationship advice ignores the very real problems of uncooperative and avoidant partners, systemic sexism, and pressures to compromise, be conciliatory, and aim for harmony. To push back on these pressures, Lester offers guidance that can help create a world that works better for everyone, starting with the women themselves.
In this accessible and uplifting guide people pleasers learn to set boundaries in all kinds of relationships, express their needs and engage in productive conflict, and deal calmly with any backlash that might come from spouses, coworkers, bosses, in-laws, siblings, and children - in other words, to ?be difficult? in the best possible way.
